My friend Haleigh doesn’t talk to me anymore, what do I do?
Well, your friend Haleigh has either been terribly busy or doesnt really she isnt talking to you. So, my advice is to make a move, by saying such things as “Hey I miss you” or “whats up? Long time no talk!” These will be a sure fire way to get her back in your life and I mean I feel like I know her really well so she should respond warmly to this, hello!
- Tumblina (haleigh..haha)
hey, guys. i’m busy bee and i just wanted to say thanks for the awesome advice.
he came over on friday night and we talked it out and decided that we like eachother too much not to try and make it work.
we ended up cuddling on my bed for six hours watching stupid shows on hulu. definitely one of the top ten moments of my life, and i owe it to you guys.
thank you :)
I love getting things like this. But trust me you dont owe it to anyone but yourself. I’m glad you took my advice though! :)
I am very sorry if I missed your posts to me, I am re starting this for like the third time and sticking too it. It brought me so much joy to help others and I miss it. So, hello to help you guys out.
sorry for getting wrapped up in life
- Haleigh
you’re back!Yay. I need advice on what to get my boyfriend for christmas. we’ve only been dating for a month and he’s seriously the hardest person in the world to buy for. he won’t tell me what he wants, because he insists on me not getting him something. but I like him a whole lot so I want to. I know in order to be a good gift, it has to be personal and come from my heart. but my heart is pretty clueless. any suggestions?
Well, seeing as I know nothing about your boyfriend it will be a bit hard to just pick out an awesome gift for him haha. I mean I cant read minds or anything. But, I will give you a bit of advice I wouldn’t spend over fifty dollars. Last year for christmas, I was with this boy that I had just recently begun hanging out with and what not. So I bought him a sweater. I will show you a few things that I things I have in mind. In different price ranges.
There are a few clothing ideas. Also, if you want to get him a really personal gift, find out bands that he really likes and see if they are playing in any local venues (be sure to check ages incase you are under 18 and wont be admitted in) but you can buy two tickets to a show he loves or a sports game. This will show him you really care. I wouldn’t buy him cologne due to the fact that he would probably like to pick out what his body smells like. You can always make a homemade card, those always spell out caring. Goodluck. p.s. if you tell me more about him I will try to help aim the presents towards him.
A while ago I had a problem and I asked you guys for advice.. Mind Vs. Heart matter. You guys told me to go with my heart. I just want you to know it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I went back to my boyfriend of five years and gave him another chance. Our relationship is better than it has ever been, ever. I just want to thank you guys and let you know how cool and amazing it is that you guys take the time to give people advice. I love what y’all do, and you shouldn’t ever stop. Haha. Thanks again for giving me the confirmation that I needed. <3
I seriously teared up when I read this. I honestly am so happy it worked out. For a while I was worried that the advice we were giving wouldn’t help people, but I guess it does. I am ecstatic for you and your boyfriend and I hope that you both have nothing but happiness in your future! :D
what is the best way to show a guy that I like him?
You see, this can go many ways. I think what you are asking is what is the best way to show a guy that you like him and get something positive in return. Well flirting is always a good thing, just do it in small doses though otherwise he might get a little freaked out. You could always just become his friend and be like, “look I think youre cute, lets hangout sometime.” If he isn’t interested, sure you will be upset, but rather that than you wasting a huge amount of your time wishing you were with someone who didn’t feel the same way. Just be yourself and let him know you are interested. That is all you can do.
- Tumblina
I’m going on a date with this awesome girl on saturday, and at the end of the night I want to kiss her. only problem is, I’ve never kissed anyone before and I know she has. I don’t want to be awkward and freak her out.
Okay, girls like confident boys, now please dont translate that into cocky. Just believe in yourself and it will all be fine. Gosh I could help you so much more if I new specifics. Ah, anyway i will work with what I’ve got. Okay, really all you have to do is be in an intimate body position, I guess her leaning on you, you two finishing a hug after a long night, you lean in closer and hope to go she leans in too, and you could always like say tuck her hair behind her ear, tell her she looks beautiful (trust me, that gets us every time) and lean in and softly kiss her lips. Now, mind me dont hold for too long and dont pull away too quick. Just do what feels natural. Another little thing, do not so help me god stick your tongue into her mouth. Seeing as this is your first time, kiss her with passion just without tongue. It will let her know you want her without thinking you just want into her pants on say your first date, which for some reason I am assuming this is. I wish you luck. Tell me how it goes!
- Tumblina
I’m applying to colleges right now and I’m so scared I won’t get into any of them. my grades and gpa are average, my extracurriculars are nothing stellar.I’m not sure that you can give me advice, but I’m completely terrified. I don’t think i can stand being around my parents for much longer.
You and I both honey, I know I shouldn’t be saying this but I am also scared shitless. You have to think about it this way, Have a fall back like a school you know you can get into, then have schools you think you will be able to get into, but you arent 100 percent sure, and last have a pipe dream aka a school that you wish you could go to (your dream school) just in hopes that maybe you will get in. This is my advice apply to a few schools (that are at least 45 mins to an hour away from your parents), Start doing some volunteer work, and remember you can ALWAYS transfer to a school you like more after a year of hard work and good grades. So, dont fret it will all work itself out. I promise. p.s. youre not alone, everyone of my friends and I are going through the college fiasco too.
- Tumblina
I’m glad you guys are back! well, I need some advice.
my best guy friend and I are cliche really into eachother. we’ve both told eachother how we feel, we both want to take stuff to the next level.
the problem is, both of us have ridiculously busy lives. We are both seniors and are going through the whole SAT, ACT, applying to college, bulking up on extra clubs and volunteering to look good stage. I’m worried that if we do get in a relationship, we’re not going to have any time and we’ll fizzle out faster then a sparkler dunked in a fish tank and thats the last thing i want.any advice?
Well you came to the right place, because I too in fact am a senior, thus I know what you are going through. Well, I would advise you to see what happens. I mean, think about it this way. You can either be stuck in the friends zone forever or attempt to do what makes you both happy. So, dont fight a good thing. Everyone is busy. You always will be busy its part of life and there will always be conflicting schedules. You will just have to make an extra effort to make the schedules unite. Volunteer together and join clubs together it will bring you closer. Do what makes you happy. As they say you are only young once.
- Tumblina
Haleigh here. Whenever my life gets hectic, well megan and I both we tend to neglect this site. Then I start to feel guilty when I leave you hanging, but I have decided I can do it, I can handle this task, say if I do only one a day, maybe two or if I have a boring day I can do like ten. Well, I am going got start Tumblina back up and I hope that you will submit your worries.
Hey I’m ‘confidence issues’, and first of all, I think I meant ‘as low as the height of a toddler’ lol. honestly though, I think I have a pretty kick ass personality, the only thing I hate about myself is my body, but you know what, I’m learning to except it. I don’t really care what people think, I mean, I do sometimes. but not as much as I used to. So it’s all good, thanks though. plus, life’s too short to care about what people think, right? just do stuff and move on.
Oh, okay. Well trust me personality is a lot more important that anything else. I’m glad you realized life is way too short to worry or care what others opinions of you are. You beautiful just the way you are. I’m glad you are starting to see that.
Okay so here it is.. I am 18 years old. I was in a relationship with this guy “my first love” with four years. I learned so much about life, myself and relationships from him. The past two years we have been real on and off, and then finally he broke it off with me for good last year sometime. But we still hung out every now and then. After graduation he moved a couple hours away and I stayed here in our hometown, I found an amazing guy who treats me like a queen..literally. I mean he is the perfect boyfriend and does anything and everything for me, oh, and for even more detail I live with him. What is the problem you say? Well, my heart is confused with my mind, and lately I cannot cannot get my ex-boyfriend out of my head. No matter how hard I try to distract myself, my mind always finds it’s way back to thinking about him. So.. he is coming back home and my heart is freaking out. I am still without a doubt in love with him still. But my recent boyfriend treats me great and I would be an idiot to leave him. I have no idea what to do. What is more important? My heart still with ex-boyfriend OR new boyfriend who treats me better than anyone ever has? Help, please please!
I cannot make this decision for you. So please whatever advice I give you don’t blame me if it doesnt turn out perfectly. Having thoughts about an ex is normal and if you were that in love with him then it is understandable to be nervous that he is returning. I’m going to be blunt with you just because someone treats you great doesn’t mean it should be the only reason you stay with them. You have to love them. As Julia Roberts once said ” I’d rather have thirty minutes of wonderful, than a lifetime full of nothing special.” You should see if your ex has changed, because who knows he could be a completely different person than you fell in love with. Thus, breaking it off with the new boyfriend could be a big mistake. I think if you have doubts in a relationship then you always will. Maybe I’m wrong. Hell, I’m only seventeen, but you cant live a life wondering “what if?” Maybe you should try to be single for a little while, live on your own and find yourself, so you really know what you want. I don’t think you should shut this new boy out, but see if the ex is still the one your heart longs for. It isn’t fair to date someone while you love another. I hope this helps. Only a combination between your head and heart will tell you what is right.
- Tumblina
I have this guy that I really like. We met at a grocery store and we have talked ever since. We started hanging out last weekend and my friend came along (support and to make sure it was safe) she liked him as well but he told me he doesnt like her and I believe him. The problem is I really think he might be too good to be true. I mean he is european, has beautiful green eyes, is very well built, always smells amazing, pays for everything, is so chill, and is everything a girl could dream for. I know im young to find true love (I’m only 18) so I am doubting that this is it. I also am worried he might play me because its happened with every single relationship i’ve been in. What sould I do?
First off I like the fact that you named yourself, because it makes it easier on me! haha, well anyway. So, I I’m guessing you are keeping your guard up, which in this case might be good at first. I am having a bit of trouble understanding if you friend liked him for herself or for you. You didnt make that very clear. I think if your friend likes him for you and he doesnt like her as a person then that should be a major red flag. As a wise person once said “chicks before dicks” hahah, seriously though. I would never choose a boy over a good friend. Dont think anything is true love. Getting swept up in the idea of it could make you wear rose colored glasses towards the relationship. Just take it day by day and enjoy his company and after a while then think it is “true love.” If I were you I would give this a shot, dont keep your guard up too much just because you have been played. But I still would sleep with one eye open just to make sure. Update me on how this is going!
- Tumblina
