April 2010
4 posts
Dear Haleigh Misser,
My friend Haleigh doesn’t talk to me anymore, what do I do?
Well, your friend Haleigh has either been terribly busy or doesnt really she isnt talking to you. So, my advice is to make a move, by saying such things as “Hey I miss you” or “whats up? Long time no talk!” These will be a sure fire way to get her back in your life and I mean I feel like I know her really...
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Busy bee! sorry for never responding!
hey, guys. i’m busy bee and i just wanted to say thanks for the awesome advice. he came over on friday night and we talked it out and decided that we like eachother too much not to try and make it work. we ended up cuddling on my bed for six hours watching stupid shows on hulu. definitely one of the top ten moments of my life, and i owe it to you guys. thank you :)
I love getting things...
I'm so neglectful!
I am very sorry if I missed your posts to me, I am re starting this for like the third time and sticking too it. It brought me so much joy to help others and I miss it. So, hello to help you guys out.
sorry for getting wrapped up in life
- Haleigh
November 2009
7 posts
Dear clueless shopper,
you’re back!Yay. I need advice on what to get my boyfriend for christmas. we’ve only been dating for a month and he’s seriously the hardest person in the world to buy for. he won’t tell me what he wants, because he insists on me not getting him something. but I like him a whole lot so I want to. I know in order to be a good gift, it has to be personal and come from my...
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A while ago I had a problem and I asked you guys for advice.. Mind Vs. Heart matter. You guys told me to go with my heart. I just want you to know it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I went back to my boyfriend of five years and gave him another chance. Our relationship is better than it has ever been, ever. I just want to thank you guys and let you know how cool and amazing it is that...
Dear Interested,
what is the best way to show a guy that I like him?
You see, this can go many ways. I think what you are asking is what is the best way to show a guy that you like him and get something positive in return. Well flirting is always a good thing, just do it in small doses though otherwise he might get a little freaked out. You could always just become his friend and be like, “look I think...
Dear First Kiss,
I’m going on a date with this awesome girl on saturday, and at the end of the night I want to kiss her. only problem is, I’ve never kissed anyone before and I know she has. I don’t want to be awkward and freak her out.
Okay, girls like confident boys, now please dont translate that into cocky. Just believe in yourself and it will all be fine. Gosh I could help you so much more...
Dear College Fears,
I’m applying to colleges right now and I’m so scared I won’t get into any of them. my grades and gpa are average, my extracurriculars are nothing stellar.I’m not sure that you can give me advice, but I’m completely terrified. I don’t think i can stand being around my parents for much longer.
You and I both honey, I know I shouldn’t be saying this but I am...
Dear Busy Bee,
I’m glad you guys are back! well, I need some advice. my best guy friend and I are cliche really into eachother. we’ve both told eachother how we feel, we both want to take stuff to the next level. the problem is, both of us have ridiculously busy lives. We are both seniors and are going through the whole SAT, ACT, applying to college, bulking up on extra clubs and volunteering to...
Dear followers,
Haleigh here. Whenever my life gets hectic, well megan and I both we tend to neglect this site. Then I start to feel guilty when I leave you hanging, but I have decided I can do it, I can handle this task, say if I do only one a day, maybe two or if I have a boring day I can do like ten. Well, I am going got start Tumblina back up and I hope that you will submit your worries.
September 2009
24 posts
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Hey I’m ‘confidence issues’, and first of all, I think I meant ‘as low as the height of a toddler’ lol. honestly though, I think I have a pretty kick ass personality, the only thing I hate about myself is my body, but you know what, I’m learning to except it. I don’t really care what people think, I mean, I do sometimes. but not as much as I used to. So...
Dear Heart Vs. Mind,
Okay so here it is.. I am 18 years old. I was in a relationship with this guy “my first love” with four years. I learned so much about life, myself and relationships from him. The past two years we have been real on and off, and then finally he broke it off with me for good last year sometime. But we still hung out every now and then. After graduation he moved a couple hours away and I...
Dear Hopelessly In Like,
I have this guy that I really like. We met at a grocery store and we have talked ever since. We started hanging out last weekend and my friend came along (support and to make sure it was safe) she liked him as well but he told me he doesnt like her and I believe him. The problem is I really think he might be too good to be true. I mean he is european, has beautiful green eyes, is very well built,...
Dear Sick Grandmother,
Hello Tumblina Girls, For the past years my grandmother has been very sick (confined to her home and at times stuck in the hospital for months) At first she was diagnosed with a brain tumor and after undergoing surgery to have it removed her personality completely changed. I love my grandmother, believe me but since that surgery I’ve come to terms with the fact that she’s not the same...
Dear Potential Friend Zone,
I am in much of the same situation as “sadie hawkins.” our situations are almost identical, right down to me meeting his parents. the only difference is i’ve known this boy for almost three months. and he hasn’t even tried to do anything. his best friends say its “so obvious” that he likes me, and he “talks about me constantly” when im not around....
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I am very very glad you guys are back :)
And we are very very glad to be back! Thanks for your support.
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I’m “Never Been Kissed” And I just wanted to say thanks :)
Youre very welcome. We are glad we could help.
Dear Waiting For Marriage,
Me and my boyfriend have been dating now for nine, almost ten months. I know I love him, because no matter how much I hate him sometimes or how badly he annoys me I cant help but be excited for whenever I hear from or see him. We haven’t had sex and I made the decision to not do this until I’m married. But recently whenever we’re having time alone together, I dont want to say he...
Dear Never Been Kissed,
I’ll be 18 in less than 2 months and I’m starting college in a couple of weeks. I’ve never had a boyfriend and never even been kissed. I don’t know if it’s me, or if I have too high of standards or what. Sometimes I think I’m scared though. Like, even though I haven’t been hurt, I feel like there’s no guy who would treat me the way I want to be...
We are back :)
Everything is going swimmingly since starting Tumblina back up. I just added a gender button to the formspring page, because sometimes people can be very vague and it helps a lot when giving you advice knowing if you are a girl who likes a boy, ect. Anyway, I hope that isnt too hard. I also would really apprectiate if you all would make a post about Dear Tumblina in order for us to have a steady...
Dear Break Up Part 2,
Hello, again. I was the one you referred to as “break up” a few weeks ago. So, tonight, I finally attempted to break up with my girlfriend over the phone so I could move on and go to school. I thought she was going to cry a lot and be angry at me and everything, but she was absolutely cool. She wanted to know how I felt and what she could have done; she was just so amazing that I...
Dear Nine Day Romance,
What to do. I’m inexplicably in love with someone I met nine days ago. She is just incredibly beautiful and perfect to me. We’ve hung out together twice, smoked pot together once, texted hundreds of times, yet talked on the phone twice, each time less than a minute apiece. About an hour ago she arrived at her new home, over 2000 miles away, and I’m already considering visiting...
Dear Missing Love,
I’m in love with this boy that I lied to and now he doesnt feel the same about me. I dont know what to do. I miss him. I miss the way we used to be. I miss him telling me he loved me.
I think it all depends on the lie you told and how you admitted you lied. You should tell him that you are very sorry for what you did and that is all you can say. Try to become friends and maybe after a while...
Dear Confidence Issues,
my confidence level is as low as a toddler. what should I do? I must ask, do toddlers have confidence levels? I guess you are attempting to say you have no confidence. Well, either you have no confidence in the looks department or you dislike your personality. Hell, it could be a combination of both. Confidence can be gain, by someone saying they like your shoes or laughing at a joke you say. It...
Dear Loving Sister,
I caught my 16 year old sister smoking weed . I told her to never do it again, but a week later found her doing it again so I told my mom. Now she hates me and wont speak to me. what should i do ? :/ - a very sad 13 year old Okay, I honestly hate drugs. I think they are complete waste of time and pointless only to feel an “out of body experience” for a short period of time. I have...
Dear Fading Romance,
I used to like this guy. I’ve liked him all summer and he also likes me. But he has pretty strict parents and they don’t allow him to date. After I found that out, I still continued to talk to him, but we never hung out. The more we continue to talk, the more juvenile he seemed to me. I’ve stopped liking him all together, but the problem is that he still likes me. Should I tell...
Dear Gay Crush,
I have a tumblr crush. but he’s gay :( Well unless you plan on attempting to make him straight (which doesnt work unless they are “bisexual”) then I ould forget about it. Hell I’ve had a crush on a gay guy before. They are well groomed, usually good looking, and have common intrests with us. So, it is easy to want them. You have to realize that it is an unrealistic...
Dear John,
Hey so what do i do if im like addicted to sex? because i think i am:( like i cant stop fucking people..and my relationship with my boyfriend is on the rocks:/ the other day he walked in on me having sex with two other guys, and another girl…yes i like girls too (im bisexual)..like is it weird that i like to have two guys and a girl at once? omg im such a dirty slut…fuck me please!
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Dear Sadie Hawkins,
There is this boy. And I have a mad crush on him. The thing is, we’ve hung out a few times and he hasn’t tried ANYTHING. Not even to hold my hand. He’s brought me home to meet his dad, and he payed for the movie. And we talk for hours on end on the phone at night, and we text all day long. Am i wrong to think he likes me? He has told me that he’s the type to take stuff...
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I sent you a problem and you havent gave me amazing advice yet :(
I feel awful…I’m sorry we went on a personal hiatus. :(
Dear Person Without a Problem,
I don’t have a problem, exactly. I’m just gonna say a few things. 1st: I’m glad you’re back, i love your tumblr. Thanks for coming back! 2nd: A friend who went to Iraq is home, and currently on base. He’s gonna come visit me pretty soon, and i’m super excited. I’m hoping he hasn’t changed too much. Sometimes i wish he didn’t have a girlfriend,...
Dear Boy Signals,
you know when I read your post on the 50 things guys do not know about girls and hell yeah its sooo… true ! [ hahaha i’m a girl yupp ? ] so i was wondering WHAT IN THE WORLD DOES A GUY THINK ! , as I am real hung up on this guy i like and i was hoping if you could write / source of the 50 things girls do not know about guys…hahaha that would be awesome don’t...
Hello Everyone,
I know, I know you probably hate Megan and I for not responding to your things and going on a almost two month hiatus, but I was got so caught up in my play and megan with work and her new boyfriend (snaps for megan as Elle Woods would say.) So, we both started back school and I have play practice every week night and she has work and a boyfriend and school, thus we are very busy, but I have been...
July 2009
52 posts
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its the first time since megan and I began this, I feel so refreshed/ accomplished. Please send us more, I am on a roll with these! :)
Dear Vacantly Confused,
I feel like I’m playing Chess with God. He seems to win all the time and Call Checkmate. The pieces on the board are the people I love. He’s literally taking them away. When I sin, it rewards me with a funeral. I’ve had 10+ deaths in the past year. 4 happen to be immediate family. I know I’ve done wrong in the past, and maybe even in the present. I can’t seem to learn...
Dear How To Deal,
I’m going through some tough times now, different than most people i know. i have a crazy mother (literally, it’s diagnosed), an away father and i sleep on a couch in my grandmother’s room. I don’t mind about that part, it’s my mom that drives me up the wall. I’m concerned about the ways i deal. I listen to music and read. I hardly ever talk about things (i like...
Youre welcome!
Thanks for the advice…I told her how I felt and she was okay with it. she said she wouldn’t bring it up again and sorry when I wrote you my situation, a few minutes before she was bothering me about it so yeah I was angry. you girls are amazing. -mom troubles :)
Oh yay! I am so happy. This is our first message back on someone who actually used our advice. This makes me really excited,...
Dear Hurt Friend,
I’m losing my best friend and nothing I do can stop it. I feel so alone and sad and I just dont know what to do with myself. She was everything and it hurts so bad.
I’m very sorry. It is very hard to give advice when I have no idea why you are losing your bestfriend, so its hard to help. Please write in and tell us what is going on and we will do our best to help you. p.s. everything...
Dear Ferris Bueller,
So my best friend and I have known each other for about 11 years. We are still great friends.We go to different schools now. And I am the girl who doesn’t want to be involved with anything related to school, after school activity or anything.I just wanna go home after school. But she is involved with everything. She is very into everything she does. I will admit, some things in her life i am...
Dear Mom Troubles,
HOW CAN I GO ABOUT TELLING MY MOM TO FUCKING STOP TELLING ME THAT I NEED A BOYFRIEND! SHE DOESN’T REALIZE THAT I GET IT! IF ANYONE KNOWS THAT I NEED A BOYFRIEND ITS ME! SHE JUST MAKES ME FEEL UGLY BY TELLING ME TO GET ONE. AHHH MAYBE THIS DOESN’T MAKE SENSE BUT IT DOES TO ME. SO WHAT SHOULD I DO JUST IGNORE HER OR TELL HER TO FUCKING STOP?
Um, calm down please? :| I can tell this is...
Dear Mature Man Seeker,
Hi. So I’m a teengaer, I’d say between 14-18. i’m starting to realize that I like older men. it’s freaking me out! there are few men from my mum’s office that I find attractive, I think they’re between 22-35 years old? and I also realized that I never really liked guys my age. even if I have, they’re the serious-smart-mature looking type of guys. maybe it...
Dear New School,
I am 16 and I have just moved to a new country. I’ve moved schools ALOT (13 times) over the years and thought this would be just like all the other times. But it’s SO hard to make new friends here and I’m having a really hard time because the kids at this school are really racist. I’ve only met a few girls who are nice, but they’re hardly ever at school. I’ve...
Dear Long Distance Romance,
What do you do when the guy you have fallen for is at least 150 miles away? i got involved with a senior last year when i was a freshman and at first he didn’t like the age difference. then when summer came around he finally changed his mind and we hung out. we hung out 3 time, once in my house, once in his car, & once in my backyard. we webcamed almost every night and we still do. he...
Dear Anger Issues,
I get so angry/depressed for no reason in particular. My parents want me to see a psychiatrist, but I don’t want to have to pay someone to tell me I am messed up nor do I want to be on any kind of altering medication; that never seemed right to me. I try to explain things to my parents, but sometimes it is like talking to a brickwall and the conversations go nowhere. Honestly, I am...
Dear Confused Eggo,
My boyfriend thinks he can wear x large trojans, when in reality he’s more of a small. Do you think that will increase my chance of getting pregnant? I don’t want my eggo to be preggo. Much love.
Well. Um. Not that I know much about the details of condom etiquette, but I would suggest possibly using something that is going to fit him the best? Since I enjoy analogies, let’s try...
Dear Dr. Downer,
Bad advice ladies, never ever date someone where you work! When it doesn’t work out and you hate each other. You will have to see each other everyday. Unless of course you are a couple of spoiled “I really don’t have to work types” and can quit your job. But for the rest of us working types who can’t afford to quit their jobs (who can in today’s economy). The...
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hey, thanks guys. You’re beyond welcome.
Thank you for responding to my entry (Unsure Employee). I’ll keep you updated with everything. You are very welcome & we look forward to your updates! ;)
I just wanted to thank you two for doing such an amazing job at this! I’ve read some of your advice, and I wish more people could take some time to do something like this in any way...
Dear Lead on,
hey haleigh, its two anonymous friends here. but anyway, i have a problem. guys always like me for a week and majorly lead me on, but then they always always find some reason to either say it wont work out or just decide they dont like me anymore. any thoughts? btw, sorry about you and sam :( yall were cute.
Hello people I know in real life. Thanks for the thing about Sam and I. I miss him a lot,...