Dear Heart Vs. Mind,
Okay so here it is.. I am 18 years old. I was in a relationship with this guy “my first love” with four years. I learned so much about life, myself and relationships from him. The past two years we have been real on and off, and then finally he broke it off with me for good last year sometime. But we still hung out every now and then. After graduation he moved a couple hours away and I stayed here in our hometown, I found an amazing guy who treats me like a queen..literally. I mean he is the perfect boyfriend and does anything and everything for me, oh, and for even more detail I live with him. What is the problem you say? Well, my heart is confused with my mind, and lately I cannot cannot get my ex-boyfriend out of my head. No matter how hard I try to distract myself, my mind always finds it’s way back to thinking about him. So.. he is coming back home and my heart is freaking out. I am still without a doubt in love with him still. But my recent boyfriend treats me great and I would be an idiot to leave him. I have no idea what to do. What is more important? My heart still with ex-boyfriend OR new boyfriend who treats me better than anyone ever has? Help, please please!
I cannot make this decision for you. So please whatever advice I give you don’t blame me if it doesnt turn out perfectly. Having thoughts about an ex is normal and if you were that in love with him then it is understandable to be nervous that he is returning. I’m going to be blunt with you just because someone treats you great doesn’t mean it should be the only reason you stay with them. You have to love them. As Julia Roberts once said ” I’d rather have thirty minutes of wonderful, than a lifetime full of nothing special.” You should see if your ex has changed, because who knows he could be a completely different person than you fell in love with. Thus, breaking it off with the new boyfriend could be a big mistake. I think if you have doubts in a relationship then you always will. Maybe I’m wrong. Hell, I’m only seventeen, but you cant live a life wondering “what if?” Maybe you should try to be single for a little while, live on your own and find yourself, so you really know what you want. I don’t think you should shut this new boy out, but see if the ex is still the one your heart longs for. It isn’t fair to date someone while you love another. I hope this helps. Only a combination between your head and heart will tell you what is right.
- Tumblina
